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You are 54 and live in a CCRC? Come on.[/quote]

No, she's 54 and *would* live in one. As would I, if I were single and had the funds.

I don't understand the logic that makes people think they should hold off until they're in their 80s because how could you make friends among the ancient residents? Is that how you see your future? That you will become someone no one wants to befriend except people who are even older than you and are therefore willing to settle for your company, which is not good but is better than nothing?

My mother lives in a Kendal and has had Nobel laureates among her neighbors. You should be so lucky as to have people that smart wanting to eat with you. [/quote]

It's not about "smart." It's about generation, interests,  and  socializing. Truly, independent livings  ( and CCRCs) are seriously designed for 80s. Over 55s are really 70s, with some 60s. I'm sure there are outliers in all, but for  the most part, not really. If one is healthy, independent, and under 78, it's  not time to pack  it all in with scheduled activities,busses, trips. It really would not be helpful to suddenly be in a social milieu that's inappropriate. It's not all  about everyone is old, etc., there's a HUGE difference between 60 and  80, and I think that's the problem with understanding here.

I'm in my mid  60s. My parents live in a CCRC, as do their friends.  I am absolutely telling everyone here,  no, it's not appropriate for a younger crowd. I have never  seen a 54 year old or 64 year  old in this vast system unless they were working there. [/quote]

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