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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the first step is to find a local senior center that he can go to during the day. They offer companionship and a free or greatly reduced noon meal. I'm in the Pittsburgh area but I think they operate pretty much the same nationwide. They sent a van to pick my Dad up each day. They operated from Monday to Friday and were run through the county. We lived in a more affluent area, so most of the seniors there were more affluent. Though I noticed this really wasn't a concern of anyone. They were just happy to have friends period, to share their war stories with.
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A bus? Why?

Listen everyone, let's not dump everyone over 60 into CCRCs, assisted living, and buses that go to senior daycare. Come on, there's a big difference between  55 to 70, 70 to 80, and 80 to 90, and  90 +

There's a lot of nuance in terms of what is appropriate,  and at a healthy 72, he doesn't  need a structure CCRC or a damn  bus chauffeuring him around to prescribed things.

Would Hilary Clinton be on that  bus? Chuck Schumer? Bruce Springsteen? Steven Speilberg?  Merle Streep? All in their 70s.

This post has the worst ageist responses I've seen,  and the information that no one gets what  72 is. This man needs grief support and peers. Please don't send  him to places that have nothing to do with his needs because everyone has just decided that  he's  old. Stop it. [/quote]

I am 54. I would 100% join a CCRC at age 70 or before, after I toured some with my parents.

My parents (in their 80s) hated them and I loved them: so many social activities, and on site restaurant, you can have your own house in the independent part, without the maintenance hassles. It wasn't a place to "store old people" it was a place you could go socialize and live your life, even if you were working and still living there. Heck, I had more fun meeting people there than I have in the DC metro.

Really sounds like you haven't been to one of the nice communities pp. All those people you mentioned have $$$$$ and can do anything they want; they can afford to hire people to help them stay home if they get sick, and get a limo anytime they want. If you are rich, it doesn't matter. I'm not and I also (unfortunately) don't have kids. The best I can do is save enough money to buy into a good place.

And, I found out with my parents, if you are too old and too sick, you will not be admitted to the CCRCs anyhow if you can't live independently without help. They ended up in a crappy nursing home because they were too frail and sick to go to independent living.

If OP's dad is in the 1% he can afford to stay in his house, hire help to clean or whatever he needs, and Uber where ever he wants to go. 
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You are 54 and live in a CCRC? Come on.[/quote]

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