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[quote=Anonymous][quote]8:46 again. I do hope Jeff is reading this. My complaint to Jeff wasn’t because of the ‘meanies picking on’ me. As I indicated in my two posts prior to yours on that thread and several other places since, I’m not interested in ‘whether’ we should do this. I’m interested in “how”. I’m sorry your experience as a child was traumatic but your post added no value since it didn’t address my question nor did it give me any information on how we could avoid the mistakes your parents made when leaving you with relatives – other than just “don’t do it”. By itself, your post wasn’t bad and I would have ignored it had others not felt compelled to continue to discuss “whether” we should do it. [b]It was de-railing the thread and the value of the thread to me, the OP. If you wanted an “open exchange of ideas and philosophies’ you should have started your own thread because that’s not what my thread was about.[/b] I’m not interested, as you acknowledged in your own post, on whether we should offer to be temporary guardians. Just because DCUM is an open forum doesn’t mean that it’s a free for all. If original posters don’t feel they get useful response, they won’t post any more and that would defeat the purpose of DCUM.[/quote]

Honestly, OP, I think you have an overinflated sense of importance. Any thread you start certainly has value to you, but , on the internet, it also has value to the whole community and that's what makes posting on an anonymous board different than asking your best friend for advice, or seeking counsel from a lawyer (in your case). This idea that you, and only you, can determine what is a useful comment and what has value is selfish. Frankly, the poster you are referring to in the quote above? I found her (or his) story very interesting and quite applicable to another situation facing another friend of mine. I'm glad it was posted and I'm glad for the perspective, even though it was in "your" thread and you didn't value the post.

I think Jeff was wrong to intervene in that thread. However, it's his sandbox and he and I aren't always going to agree and when in his sandbox, I play by his rules. But I think he was short sighted in allowing an OP such discretion on what constitutes a useful or appropriate reply. Look what's happening here. Further posts about justified you feel judging other people's posts and their value because they didn't give you exactly what you wanted when you wanted it. This is not a good way to encourage debate and discussion. It creates selfish people only concerned about themselves.

Oh, and you can be sure that if someone starts a thread asking how to create an explosive device, I'm going to certainly question whether they should do so rather than just offering up my pyrotechnic knowhow. Anything less is being irresponsible to the community at large, as well as the OP.

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