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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was in a situation like this and made a move and he is now my husband. I knew him well enough then to know he wasn’t the type of guy who perused girls, way too laid back and just kind of clueless. I did it by getting drunk and kissing him. Not very mature, but we were in our 20s and went out drinking a fair amount. I figured if he wasn’t into me, I could sort of blame it on the booze and try to pretend it didn’t happen. I also knew him well enough to know that we wanted the same things in life and he was worth the risk of an awkward friend group. Your guy is fresh off a long term relationship so maybe just looking for a fling. If that’s not what you want, be careful.

Giving you a massage seems like not something people do with people they aren’t attracted to. I would be extra flirty and maybe he will pursue you? [/quote]

I agree with this PP. My first reaction to him offering a massage is... um yes he is likely into you.

And, my husband is similar to this PP's. I kind of had to initiate the dates. He obviously was really into me, but for some reason was not very adept at just asking me out, setting up a date, etc. So, i ended up making the suggestions. He was so glad. I don't know why some men are like this. He's a manly man, confident, really into me, just not good at making a move. I think it is a bit to do with being careful, not wanting to seem too agressive or sexual. Kind of how you, OP, seem to be overthinking all this. Someone just needs to make a move - you or him.

Oh - and yes I suggested/planned 90% of our dates in the beginning, but he after only our 3rd date said he was "deeply in love" with me, we married 7 months later, and have been married now for 5 years and are expecting baby #3. Just saying that some people still hang on to that "but a man wants to pursue!" idea but obviously, that's not always the case :)[/quote]

It's been 5 years. come back  and tell us about your deep love and your  manly husband in another 5.[/quote]

I’m the first poster quoted above and what the next poster described fits my relationship exactly. My DH is a stereotypical dude, into sports and beer and sex and successful in his career but not very good at dating. I set up almost all of our dates early on, and he eagerly accepted but never initiated. A lot of friends told me to stop making the first move, let him call me for a change, but I would wait and he wouldn’t call so then I would call him and he was happy to go on another date. We’ve been married 15 years with 3 kids and I still take the lead on a lot of things. Not all men want to be the one to make the first move! [/quote]

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