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[quote=Anonymous]Ugh. I'm so sorry.  Is your dad local?  Did they have a lot of time with him growing up?

My sons were 9 and 12 when my dad was going through terminal cancer and then hospice.  My sister's boys were 18, 21 and 24.

He was the grandpa that came to all over their sporting events.  They would sleepover at grandparents' house.  He took a huge interest in all of their interests.

So- the college junior drove home several times.  My boys went to see him a lot and then when he basically came home to die, everyone was at my mom's for the next 3 days.

BUT, OP, the younger kids moved on very fast after even though they were very emotional seeing him at the end.  My sister's kids has a harder time since they knew him even longer and were adults.

I did feel like EVERYONE moved on faster than me.  I was the youngest of his three children and I worked in the same field (even same office at one point!).  We were a lot alike and very close.

3 years later and it is still hard. I'm so sorry about your dad. BIG Hugs.  My mistake was not letting anyone know how I was feeling after the first few weeks.  My husband had no idea a lot of my behavior 1 year- 1.5 years later was the grief I was hiding because I was afraid what everyone would think of me if I was still having a hard time.  Same with my friends.[/quote]

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