Toggle navigation
Toggle navigation
Home
DCUM Forums
Nanny Forums
Events
About DCUM
Advertising
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics
FAQs and Guidelines
Privacy Policy
Your current identity is: Anonymous
Login
Preview
Subject:
Forum Index
»
Tweens and Teens
Reply to "Is yours the house the kids hang out at? How'd you get that to happen?"
Subject:
Emoticons
More smilies
Text Color:
Default
Dark Red
Red
Orange
Brown
Yellow
Green
Olive
Cyan
Blue
Dark Blue
Violet
White
Black
Font:
Very Small
Small
Normal
Big
Giant
Close Marks
[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is one of those things like how do you get a good sleeper that is actually not predictable but people who have been successful like to think it’s due to what they did. [/quote] This is NOTHING like that... that's a ridiculous analogy. This is something you need to cultivate and put effort into. There's a difference between a parent that's open & welcoming and a parent with such severe anxiety that they freak out at the the THOUGHT of someone coming over, forget about if their kid actually asks. There's a difference between a parent who is genuine and warm, and one who can barely stand the thought of kids being in their home. There's a difference between a parent giving kids the respect of personal space and one who hovers over them listening in to all conversations. There's a difference between a parent who has a genuine care for those who enter their home, and one who can barely feign their ambivalence & resting b-i-t-c-h face when anyone comes over. There's a difference between a parent who is easy going and doesnt sweat the small stuff, and a parent who looms about and watched like a hawk to make sure the ottoman isn't moved over an inch, or the vacuum lines aren't ruined. I'm gonna go out on a limb and say the fact that you didn't know any of this and think it's all left up to chance; tells me that you're most definitely the latter parent in every single one of these scenarios. [/quote] Oh FFS get over yourself before you sprain something patting yourself on the back Yes there are parents who are unwelcoming but there are many more parents who have snacks and know how to give kids their space etc and the reason one house becomes more of a hangout has much more to do with things like the internal group dynamics, neighborhood geography etc than your skill as a shopper or listener. [/quote]
Options
Disable HTML in this message
Disable BB Code in this message
Disable smilies in this message
Review message
Search
Recent Topics
Hottest Topics