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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe your husband didn't listen to you because you have funny notions on what constitutes 'cheating'. [/quote]

So you don't anything wrong with rewarding a 6-year-old for proving that they're smarter than most 5-year-olds?[/quote]

Reality is the 6 year old isn't smarter, only older.  [/quote]

That's the point I'm trying to make. I guess the more appropriate way to word it would be "It's wrong to reward a 6-year-old for outperforming a bunch of 5-year-olds". Our son was born in 2016, and my husband wants him to be rewarded for outperforming kids born in 2017.[/quote]

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OP, your second paragraph in the original post is so far outside reality -- I am not bashing you by saying that, I'm actuallly trying to get to you do some research.

Do you really think it would be right to hold back your child from doing anything remotely competitive [u]for his ENTIRE school career[/u] because he was redshirted for [u]kindergarten[/u]?

Are you exaggerating in your post and with your DH, to make a point? For your child's sake, I certainly hope that's the case.

I can't truly credit your post is meant seriously, regarding examples as ridiculous as turning down an [i]earned[/i] valedictorian honor at age 18 just because your child was redshirted at age five.

Your original post claimed your son should never, ever run for class president, be valedictorian, or apply to "prestigious" colleges because he began kindergarten a year late. If you're remotely serious, please, for your child's sake, do even a tiny bit of reading about child development.

A one-year difference might seem vast and insurmountable to you when your son is six in K, but by the time he and ALL his classmates are another year or two down the road, [i]one year of age difference will not matter.[/i] Absolutely it will not matter once kids are out of elementary school. If you are actually serious, you really do not understand child development or even the nature of "competitions" other than sports.

You also are making a gigantic assumption, though you don't seem to see it, that your son will automatically be better/smarter/faster/stronger/the winner, versus kids a year younger, throughout all 12 years of school. You do realize that there will be kids a year younger than he is who are the ones who will surpass him in academics or sports or elections or whatever--right?

I'm just hoping this is all being exaggerated for effect and is some kind of anti-redshirting tale and not a real proposal for parenting a real child.

And I say that as an anti-redshirt parent myself. My DC is much older than yours--in college now. Age differences of a year just cease to matter except in a few cases, intellectually. Physically, redshirting so a kid will be bigger and more physically mature for sports later on is sick. But you seem to be focused on your son's being class president and valedictorian etc. Again -- IF this is for real. [/quote]

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