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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. To answer a few questions:

I’m the DW (shocker).
I work 25-30 hours/week in a flexible, patient-facing healthcare job and make about 1/3 of DH’s salary. Even before the pandemic, it was a stressful career. I’ve stayed in my position because I’m the de facto parent and household manager.
I’m starting a new job with a normal schedule and higher salary (about 75% of DH’s) soon. All legwork for finding camps/daycare was on me, as were the financial responsibilities.
DH pays the mortgage. I pay for everything else - food, utilities, clothing, other bills, transportation, insurance, household items. We used to split housing costs 50/50 before I flexed down as a new parent.
He put the down payment on our house. I paid all the renovation costs, bought appliances, and furnished it.
It took years to get him to agree to buy a house despite multiple pleas for the sake of everyone’s sanity. He was deeply resentful that I didn’t contribute more to the DP and that most of my assets are tied up in retirement. 
He barely does anything around the house. Doesn’t take out trash and will leave things out for me to deal with. Won’t vacuum because it hurts his ears. Doesn’t do any laundry except his own.
DH has never liked driving. Before kids, this wasn’t a big deal. However, he let his license expire while I was pregnant with our younger kid and has been doing backflips to avoid renewing it. I drove myself to the hospital when I was in labor and have been the only licensed driver on big family road trips.
He’s vegan by choice (used to be a more relaxed vegetarian). I’m flexitarian and like a variety of foods. He imposes his food issues on our kids. Finding something for him to eat is always a challenge, plus he’s extremely unpleasant when he’s hungry.
We have normal BMIs for our height. No one has let themselves go.
 
Who just lets their license expire?? That is super weird, whether he likes driving or not.  As in I suspect mental illness.  How does he get to work? He just never leaves the house unless you drive him??

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