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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here. My question on this thread was simply - what is the process to getting my child protection from harsh punishment/discipline at school? This question can be answered without opening up a new and separate discussion or debate as to what constitutes "harsh" discipline. The question as to what truly constitutes harsh discipline is not for DCUMer's to debate or decide, after all, it is for me, my husband, an attorney (which we're seeking), my child's psychiatrist, and the school to decide. I wasn't asking for you to get in on this discussion too.[/quote]

No, OP, the question cannot be answered without a discussion of definitions. Even you in the post above this one recognizes that the importance of definitions (when you suggest a position "boils down to your definition of integrating"). The question you asked originally depends on what you mean by the words "protection" and "harsh punishment/discipline". Unless you are willing to define these terms and give examples, it will take a long time and a lot of speculation before someone guesses at what you mean and tries to tell you what you want to hear.  For example, if your definition of harsh is physical abuse or correction, then the advice I would give you for seeking protection would be very different than if you thought harsh means having recess taken away. We don't know you, how can we possibly know what you mean by harsh?

Unless, of course, you wanted the obvious answer. Get it in the IEP in the form of a behavior plan. But, according to you, you have a team of people deciding what harsh discipline is. Which begs the question, what are you really asking us for? Examples of behavior plans you can bring to your IEP? Then ask for that, and you will get more helpful responses if you give us an age range and a general diagnosis. We can only be as helpful as you let us and it is incredibly unfair to get defensive (and offensive) because you are asking strangers for something without giving them all the information they need to be helpful.

And to the PP who is telling people to STFU because s/he thinks some posters don't understand Special Needs families because they post something challenging or suspicious, please dial it back. SN families are as unique among other SN families as they are among NT families (if one can fairly make these generalizations). My SN family is not the same as yours and I don't want you speaking for me. I don't want people to STFU. I want to know what all parents think of the topics posted here, because that is the world my child lives in and it helps me stay grounded in the world around me. Yes, I appreciate the support of SN families, especially when I meet families facing similar challenges. That said, I appreciate most all posters because I learn something from them. What makes this forum great is when we have real, respectful, diverse, and intelligent conversations about our kids and what they need. Let's not compromise that by telling people to shut up. It doesn't elevate us.[/quote]

Several people answered my question in pp's...without asking me what my child did and without asking me what the punishment was. So how is it that THEY were able to answer my question without delving into a deeper discussion of definitions? So I'm saying knowing what I define as harsh isn't really necessary to provide an answer. The pp's suggested behavior plans. And to answer your question now, yes, I'd love to know examples of behavior plans I can bring to my child's IEP. I already gave not a general diagnosis of my child but a specific one - I said he has ADHD and SPD. I thought I already mentioned that he is seven years old also.

As much as I'd like to say or think that the SN forum is different from all other forums on DCUM, that people here are always warm, empathetic, and supportive, that is, sadly, not always true. Parents of SN kids don't become noble and derive some kind of integrity simply because they gave birth to SN kids. They are really no different than parents of non-SN kids and sadly I've read and experienced snarky, snide, unsupportive comments here and elsewhere enough times to know not to provide too much information that will get me caught up in those kind of discussions. I'm trying to keep it focused on my question, which is simply, can I put something in an IEP to protect my child? What? How? What have people done for their children?

I'm writing here because I haven't retained an attorney...yet. If they're too expensive I might not be able to. All I have at my disposal is a psychiatrist. [/quote]

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