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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like questions like this are rorschach tests of your marriage.

If my husband had wanted to do this I wouldn't have immediately thought he was an enormous jerk. But my husband wouldn't have asked assuming I'd say yes, he would have thought through ways to support me while I was gone, and he is an extremely supportive partner all the time so there is preexisting generosity towards him in my heart.

If he asked me expecting me to say yes with no thought for how hard it was going to be and had been leaving me to shoulder most of the work for months and he was spending our family's vacation budget (and in the middle of a pandemic while we had a newborn he was going to come back to) to do it then my reaction would be much worse.

The idea that someone would ask about going on a trip when they have a two month old at home isn't inherently bad. The needle falls one way or another based on the larger picture of the marriage and person and their behavior.

But regardless, his sulking and you posting about how he sucks on the internet says something pretty alarming about your marriage that has nothing to do with him asking about going to Vegas. It sounds like you both have resentment towards each other and it is not really about this trip. I would for sure figure out why this is a hot button for both of you. [/quote]

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