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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thomas Wolfe was right — you can’t go home again.

My entire childhood, my Mother yearned for the town she grew up in. We heard all about what a wonderful, magical place it was. Finally, after I went away to college, my parents moved back there. She hated it. I don’t know if the place had changed, or she had changed and the town hadn’t, but they left after a few years.

If what your husband wants is to return to his childhood, that place isn’t likely to exist anymore. Even if his family is still there, visiting is very different from living with them every day.

However, sometimes it does work out — my DH and I moved to the town he grew up in, and we’ve really enjoyed it, so far. However, we moved here because it happens to be a really nice place that met all our criteria for retirement, and he had zero nostalgia or expectations related to his childhood or family. It’s a fresh start; it just happens to be in a familiar place. [/quote]
My father wanted to retire in his native country. My mother said no because all the kids were here, and she didn't want to be that far from them.

She said when he goes to visit, he gets the royalty treatment from her family (all of his live in the US), and he socializes a lot, and goes places. Obviously, if he lived there, it wouldn't be the same because he's not just visiting, but living there, and so people will go on with their lives. His life would be the same there as it is here, except for the different  language.  Plus, as a PP stated, he's been gone for 40+ years.  He is used to the life here, but doesn't realize it.

It's like going on some tropical island vacation and thinking that you could retire there because you love it so much. But if you actually lived there, through all the bad weather, etc.. you probably wouldn't feel the same way about it.

IMO, it's just nostalgia.[/quote]

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