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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was a consultant for many years (also happily married with three young children) and early on I surprised by how alpha male c-suite types came on to me in both subtle and not so subtle ways. They have been trained to “seduce” people in non sexual ways as part of their rise to the top and it becomes part of their MO. I’m intelligent and attractive and wary of these types but have to admit it’s an ego boost to be subtly wooed. The unsubtle ones are boors. Whenever a lunch or dinner conversation drifted into a risky area I would always start talking about my family and that usually shut it down. If someone texted me later I’d politely shut it down. The hard part was not alienating the client or potential client so much as to lose an assignment. I did walk away from one potential assignment because it was clear what he wanted. It’s nice to be flattered but it’s a very slippery slope so it’s best to shut it down early. [/quote]

OP here- you hit the nail on the head. If I want to keep doing this work, I’ll need to be prepared for this. I already primarily wear pantsuits since my last job, and that seems to help give a asexual vibe. But sometime I just want to wear a dress! Feels a little constraining but the price of success.[/quote]

PP - I much preferred dresses and they were generally tailored and conservative. I leave the scrappy cocktail dresses for my husband. Also, no more than one glass of wine and do your best to keep the conversation focused on your agenda, not his. [/quote]

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