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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Go in august to your parents and find nice things to do there instead of hanging out at the pool?

Who is usually tons of stuff for kids to do if you’re willing to spend the money.
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Not going because the community pool is closed seems weird to me.[/b] Where do your parents live generally speaking?[/quote]

OP here - I get why people don't get this. It's partly because this has been a tradition (oldest cousin is 14, youngest is 6) so the pool is something everyone can do between hanging out and the like.

I think some of you have hit on what's going on even before I did - it's not the trip or location - it's the family dynamic. It's changed and I'm having a really hard time navigating that. Or a more accurate description might be that I've always been the one to go the extra mile to make things happen, and maybe now I've realized that I was the one doing that.

Gotta admit that one thing that sticks in my craw is that when the whole plan got revived I then had to say I might have limits or not be able to travel because of asking for leave at work. My mom then asked if I'd be offended if they went with my brother and his kids. I said ok but wanted to make it work. [b]Then he tanked it and literally zero interest in planning this trip if it didn't include him[/b].

I am turning 50 this year and I feel like a stupid 7th grader with all of this. [/quote]

I think your brother, and entire family, are far to used to letting you do all the legwork.  That needs to stop.  But, two points:

- I agree with your brother that I'd prefer not to spend a lot of money on a mediocre vacation.  
- Why on earth would he plan a vacation that didn't include him?  Is he a travel agent?  [/quote]

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