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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an adoptive mom and also adopted myself. We’d adopted internationally. There is definitely trauma involved. It can be mild or severe but anytime a child is removed from a home and culture or family of origin there will be lingering issues. Any parent who says otherwise is in denial and probably not a great adoptive parent.[/quote]
Adoption isn’t trauma (unless there is a problem with the adoptive parents). The circumstances that lead to adoption is the trauma. Adoption is an imperfect attempt to deal with the trauma.[/quote]

Adoption can be trauma but not in the sense some are posting via your point of view.  If it was a shady adoption, against the birth parent wishes and other things, it very much can lead to trauma.  It happened to a child/family we know where it was a very shady adoption.[/quote]
I just wanted to add that i think labeling adoption as trauma causes some adoptive parents to feel defensive and less inclined to understand the feelings of abandonment and loss that many people who were adopted experience, no matter how well-meaning their adoptive parents.[/quote]

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