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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]So now I don't feel comfortable leaving the house anymore with DD in DH's care. And if we split, I have to worry about her safety even more. I feel so terribly guilty that I've given our toddler this life. [b]She is so perfect and I really messed up. [/b][/quote]

Oh, OP, my heart broke for you when I read this. You have NOT messed up. I’m glad you are giving Al-Anon a go, and it sounds like you found a good group.

You can deal with this. I know I’m just an anonymous, random person, but I have so much faith in you.[/quote]

This is OP, thank you for saying this. I tend to be hard on myself and I am nauseous thinking I made the world’s biggest mistake, but it’s confusing because my daughter is the best thing to ever happen to me. I want to believe that if this marriage does not work out, it was still a good decision because I got my wonderful daughter, and if I’d married someone else I wouldn’t have had her. I’m a mess right now, clearly.[/quote]

Op, you seem to have very “black and white” thinking processes.   Life is full of grays and nuances.   I was one of the people on the fence on your last thread, but clearly your dh has some issues.  I’m glad to see you’re going to Al-Anon, but I think some individual therapy would be good for you.  There’s no point beating yourself up for what is clearly a problem that your spouse has.  [/quote]

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