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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dated ( and later married) a widowed father with young kids.
As you said sex is quick for the most part, that's just life with kids, much easier now that we are living together. It was really hard when dating.
I did push for and get an overnight though the first time we were together. I was a virgin and I stressed to him that I needed him to be there after to cuddle, and I wanted to wake up next to him the next morning. I didn't want it to be a hurried affair. He made that happen. 
So I think you have to communicate your wants and needs, but also be really flexible about what happens when you are together.  [/quote]

You were a virgin dating a single dad with three young kids? Weird. [/quote]

Not that PP but what's weird about it? They clearly liked each other and ended up married. You people have so many arbitrary and silly "rules."[/quote]

DP. Oh come on - that's [i]very[/i] weird. She was dating a man who had been a father for at least 5 years (unless they were triplets) but she was a virgin.

Was it arranged? Did the community expect her to keep her chastity intact? [/quote]

Or maybe she liked this man and he liked her and she hadn't had sex yet but wasn't necessarily waiting for marriage. Again, the weirdos are you creeps. [/quote]

What I find fascinating about this post and replies is that PP states that "she did push for and get an overnight" for their first time together as if that was a major feat instead of something that adults would normally do or a woman (or man) could reasonable ask for.  It does strike me as some sort of power imbalance in the relationship.  Was your DH looking for a virgin to marry? [/quote]

Orignal commentator herere.  I  think some of you are reading something sinister into this when there isn't, Maybe you are assuming because I said I was a virgin at the time I was quite young, I wasn't. DH and I were both in our 30s at the time, and I am actually a couple of years older. I simply hadn't had sex yet because I was waiting for someone I felt 100% comfortable with which I did and still do with him.  As for your interpretation of push I only meant that I had been pretty flexible with our time together because of the kids, but for that, I made the expectation clear that I wanted him for the whole evening, He didn't have an issue with it, and I probably didn't need to say anything because of how he is, but I did. But enough about me, time we get back to OP and her thread.[/quote]

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