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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A family member's spouse molested me as a teen and I went on to have a sexual relationship with that person.

I feel like shit about it, no need to lecture me.[/quote]

You shouldn't feel like shit about that, and no one has any right to lecture you. You're not the first victim who's ended up in that situation, not by a long shot. I hope you find a way to not feel like shit about it. Not your fault at all.[/quote]

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No lectures, hugs only. ((()))[/quote]

Thanks to both of you for the kind words.

I wasn't innocent in it all. It was a combination of my low self-esteem at the time and zero previous romantic/sexual interaction that turned me confronting that person over the unwanted incident into me agreeing to continue it and even being the aggressor at times.

Sigh. I've been to therapy for it but it was utterly unhelpful (I felt bad for the poor therapist, he didn't know what to say to me) so now I just live with the knowledge of what I did.[/quote]

This is actually VERY TYPICAL behavior. I learned this after I was raped and became really promiscuous. Eventually, a therapist helped me find other ways to "get my power back." That can be what prompts sexual aggression in someone who has been abused. Rather than feel like a victim, you take on another role.

No one should judge you for this. I pray you are in a healthier, safer space now.

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