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[quote=Anonymous]I’ve done these long visits with my parents, but with just one child. Honestly I much much prefer it when they visit me, because then we have paid childcare and they handle evenings and weekends, leaving me free! Visiting them is a lot of work because I feel guilty that they’re handling DC all day and intentionally shorten my workdays to give them a break (and end up making up for it at night). But they love hosting us so we do it to please them (and for a nice change of scenery).

My suggestions:

You and your DH should plan to take several days off especially during the latter half of the visit, by which time the novelty of the visit has somewhat worn off. Go on an overnight trip around the halfway point for a change of pace, ideally with your parents if they are interested, or without if they want downtime.

Also, take the kids out every evening after work for something active (and ideally for an hour in the morning before work too) so that your parents get some peace and quiet. You and DH handle bedtime.

Figure out a cooking gameplan up front. My Mom loves feeding us so I let it go.

Try to help them with anything they need. I’ll go through their retirement accounts, while DH helps with tech troubleshooting and small house fixes.

Don’t give them cash for their utilities. That’s just weird.

When they’re in charge of the kids do NOT step in unless they ask. Even if they’re doing something “wrong” let them (assuming it’s not dangerous)[/quote]

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