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[quote=Anonymous]You need to stop being the main point of contact with your ILs, and shift that responsibility to your DH. This can be challenging once the pattern has been established. I got into this pattern with my ILs when my kids were small, and though I was doing a kindness/favor. The problem is: once they get used to it, they take it for granted and get mad at YOU when you can’t meet their needs.

How to get out of this pattern without blowing the relationship up? As someone said, start taking awhile to get back to them. Says lots of “gosh I don’t know...I’ll check with DH and have him get back to you!” (And then tell dh “hey your mom was wondering about xyz, can you please get back to her”) If they send text fishing for info, always be polite but don’t get wrapped up. “Hi Susan, glad you and Bob had a great dinner. Yes, Larlo is enjoying soccer. Hope you are enjoying this beautiful weather!” rather than spilling details or getting too overly friendly. They can’t find fault with you (nor can DH) as you are being polite.

Odds are your DH will get frustrated with being bothered all the time and end up setting boundaries all on his own. BTDT. [/quote]

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