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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] "Feeling it" and "sparks" right off the bat are terrible predictors of a good relationship.[/quote]

Yet “no spark” or “no chemistry” is the message you’ll get after countless first dates. Oh well![/quote]

TBH, I think the “no spark” line really just means the person isn’t attracted to you. I know everyone on DCUM is big on second and even third dates to find that elusive spark, but for me, if I didn’t even feel a modicum of attraction to the person after first meeting them, it was never going to happen - it’s just how I’m wired. No amount of great conversation ever changed that for me. Not saying the guy had to be actor-good looking, but there had to be a threshold level of attractiveness there. I stopped wasting guys’ time (and mine) on pointless second and third dates after I realized this fact about myself.

To answer your question OP, it took about 18 months of online dating in my mid 30s to find my husband. Not sure how many first dates, but a LOT. [/quote]

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