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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you’re more of a helicopter parent than you realize. I’m guessing you’re paying for all or most of college and that’s why you feel entitled?

I graduated from college in the mid-aughts, and I was a true adult. I paid my own tuition and rent with money I made working (attended a very cheap in-state, probably one of the last places in America where this is still possible without major loans or grants). Nothing about college was any of my parents’ business and they certainly had no entitlement to information from the school.

Maybe instead of worrying so much about the fact that FERPA recognizes that your children are adults, you should worry more about the fact that you do not.

And I get it. Since you have the wealth to pay for college, the system puts you in this role of still being “daddy” for check-writing purposes. But if your wealth has, to date, emotionally stunted your children to the point that you really do not believe they are independent and autonomous adults (clearly happens, see the threads about college freshman who don’t even have their own checking accounts) maybe you should ask them to take a gap year and come back when they are truly adults. [/quote]

I don't think you learned much in college.  You don't seem to realize that the chip on your shoulder is blocking your view of most kids' college experiences.  Most kids have parental help paying for college expenses.  It is not unreasonable for a parent to want information about the outcomes related to those expenses.  My parents paid 100% of my tuition, room and board, expenses and spending money while I was in college.  Of course I would not begrudge them the ability to know how I was doing with that support.  When you mature perhaps you'll understand more about things like this.[/quote]

I don’t have a chip on my shoulder at all, why would I have a chip about being a true adult when I was, in fact, an adult?

And of course “most kids” do not have rich parents bankrolling the college experience for them. That’s your DCUM bubble. [/quote]

Weird.  We have 5 kids who have just graduated college or are in college now.  Of the hundreds of people those 5 kids are friends with I cannot think of a single one who isn't getting some sort of financial assistance from their parents.  That isn't a DCUM bubble, it is a fact.

It is more normative for a child to have parental financial support paying for college than it is to be fully responsible for the payment oneself.  According to Sallie Mae only 34% of students borrow money, and that borrowed money accounts for only 13% of their total expenditures.   In other words, the child paying 100% of college expenses him/herself is the outlier.

Please do yourself and the rest of us a world of good by educating yourself before you post.  When you post such foolishness you make yourself look bad and you bring down the rest of us with you.[/quote]

You realize that kids without rich parents get aid right

Jesus you don’t even understand what the data you’re citing to means and then you tell me to educate me[/quote]

Sweetie, stay on track.  You were saying that "most kids" don't get financial support for college from their parents.  I disputed that and used a citation from Sallie Mae.  You're beaten and now you're off on another tack because you don't want to give up.  That's okay.  You're immature and ignorant.  Stay that way.  We don't need you around at all.  I am sure you hear that all the time.  Bye bye.[/quote]

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