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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think it's normal to feel this way at this point, but I agree with PPs that if you hire a nanny, you will quickly realize that she cannot replace the bond you have with your baby. Especially now -- your baby is very firmly attached to you at this point, I have no doubt. You will be their primary attachment for many years now.

I became a SAHM in part because we could not afford a nanny or good quality daycare. I loved the years with my DC, but I wound up with the opposite problem -- I was eager for my DC to develop a strong attachment to my spouse and to teachers and other caregivers, because it is REALLY hard to be someone's whole world. Because I spent so much time with DC, we had to be really intentional about creating opportunities for DH to have solo parenting time so that DC could have more of a bond with him. And it was a relief when DC started forming attachments to PK teachers. It would have been nice to have family nearby, too, for that reason.

Enjoy this phase while it lasts, but as your child gets older, he will need more than just you have to give (and you will need more space and time for yourself). Don't cut off those avenues -- you will need them.[/quote]

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