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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No to affair.

She is sick of doing things for other people. She thinks if she can leave she can reclaim who she wants to be. She regrets stalling her career.

Here is the thing. She is having a midlife crisis. Leaving won’t fix any of this for her.

This isn’t your fault. You can’t fix it.

I wouldn’t do a full 180 but I’d encourage her to move out and  figure it out but your not waiting for her to figure it out.

She’ll be back in 6-9 months.

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+1. Although I am not sure that she will be back in 6 months. Sounds like she is exhausted from doing everything for everyone, including you, and wants peace and solitude. I encourage you to reflect on what you can do to make her life easier, better, more fulfilling. Ask her. And suggest counseling for you both.[/quote]

This is the answer. ignore all the above posts that are obviously from men saying she is preparing to leave you so strike first etc. She is sick up to her eyeballs of having lost herself, her time, her dreams, her identity in a situation that gives her no room for self-expression. Do what she's asking. Step up. Take on more responsibility at home. Give her time and space. Give her off time. Support her advancing her career like she did for you if you want to stay together. These types of "I'm sick of being a mom/wife" situations are some of the saddest divorces IMO bc the kids invariably feel abandoned and it permanently affects them. STEP. UP. NOW.[/quote]

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