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[quote=Anonymous]So I’ll admit that when I lost a substantial amount of weight in my early 20s I did this. I wasn’t as overtly mean or hostile as OP’s friend, but I recognize the impulse.

At that point, there was so much insecurity and internalized self-hatred that yeah, there was a weird impulse (at least for me) to distance myself from what I used to be. I was genuinely revolted by fat people just like I’d been genuinely revolted by myself. It goes much deeper than the weight.

Anyway, it took me years, and several phases of significant change in weight both directions to finally become comfortable in my skin and let that all go. Not to mention therapy.

This is not at all to excuse the behavior. That should be corrected. But if she’s your friend and it’s coming from a person who’s otherwise kind and caring and whatever other values you look for, maybe try to at least consider the possibility that it’s coming from a place of a lot of unresolved pain. Talk to her about that. People who are living healthy lives, in the broad sense of the term, have no need to mock or belittle or show cruelty to others. She’s not healthy yet. [/quote]

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