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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn't even REMOTELY relevant to what OP's situation is.  Why in the world would you even think that it is!?  [/quote]

Because self-centered people like this poster see themselves in every situation....?[/quote]

Some people have a little thing called EMPATHY and they can try to fit into other's shoes and try to help. That's all.[/quote]

Honey, that's not 'empathy' because it's NOTHING like OP's situation.  I've got SN kids and it's people like you who think that experience allows you to understand what my challenges and then 'share' your story that really burn me up.  It's like trying to commiserate with a cancer patient based on your experience with an ingrown toenail from a bad pedicure.  Not the same at all![/quote]

Empathetic PP here and I work with SN children. A very common statement in our field is that the biggest handicap the children have are the PARENTS. Life is hard for everybody and just because our challenges are different it doesn't mean people out there can't understand or relate to your reality.

People like you give SN moms a bad name. Get over it already. You're not the only one and your situation is not the worst ever. [/quote]

So you really think your experience with your friend who stayed with one guy for 12 years (!) and messed up is similar to OP situation with a friend who has a severely disabled child?  You really think your experience with your friend has given you insight into OP’s situation?

I’ve never said my situation is the worst.  I know a lot of people who have kids with far more significant challenges but I know anyone whose experience with a friend who makes poor choices has made them better able to understand my situation.  And, that you and your colleagues think [/quote]the biggest handicap the children have are the PARENTS.[/quote] is unfathomable.  There are certainly parents who could do a better job with their kids but I’ve been so impressed and touched by the SN parents I’ve met.  They are incredibly knowledgeable, supportive and empathetic.  That you can’t see that really shows how  little you understand the challenges of raising SN kids and how shallow your emotional intelligence is.  How could you have any capacity for empathy?
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