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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not saying I don’t understand why she is depressed/unhappy. Of course I do. I just didn’t realize the extent of it until I spent this time with them.

She is a single mom and her ex pays child support but her kids are almost old enough to be done with that. Basically she has a dead end but stressful job that doesn’t earn anything and her kids are all basically a mess. It’s very sad and stressful for all of us because both my parents were well educated and we grew up in a very comfortable lifestyle. I am actually grateful my father isn’t alive to see how bad my sister’s life has turned out. It’s just desperately sad.[/quote]

Did your sister go to college?  I think your focus should be more on getting her kids into community college for some good paying jobs.  You have lent her 1K.  Is that all that you can give her?  Did your parents not leave anything for you both? 
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My sister has a degree but really doesn’t use it in her job. My nieces are out of high school and the older one wasted two years at an expensive private college that she dropped out of. She had a baby and is now trying to go to community college. The younger one barely graduated from high school this year and has no interest in college. The youngest is in high school and hopefully will go to some sort of trade school, I’m not really sure.

My mother is still alive and has a fair amount of money that’s invested for her retirement. She spends very little on herself, does give some to my sister, and keeps the rest in case she needs it for her own long-term care. She will leave it to us eventually, which is basically what my sister is probably banking on.

I can’t really give her more at this point, unless I was to withdraw from my retirement savings. I am looking for a higher paying job, partly so I can give her more.[/quote]

I am so sorry.

I also feel so bad when young girls in precarious financial situations also make the mistake of having babies without first standing on their own two feet.

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