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[quote=Anonymous]I try to come from a place of compassion and remind myself that MIL is jealous* of opportunities I have, and that I live a much happier lower-stress lifestyle than she did when she was at the stage I'm at, and no matter what, I stay classy.

*MIL makes passive-aggressive comments about that we have a full time nanny, that we have cleaning people twice a week, that we hire a decorator when redoing rooms in our home, etc.  She will say things like, "I felt it was important that the kids see ME cleaning."  But DH has told me that she really only ever cleaned the kitchen counters, sink and table and he never once saw her dust or vacuum and he and his sister had a ton of cleaning chores.  MIL will say "I think it's important to impart your own values on your children instead of someone else's." But DH has told me that every day when he walked home from elementary school she was asleep on the couch and there was a note telling him what chores to do and when to wake her up (before his dad got home). So she views herself as having been this wonderful SAHM, but her kids don't view her that way at all. Plus, when DH and SIL talk about their childhoods, they talk about how miserable they were, how much yelling and punishing there was, and how it was so depressing. Dh and I have a happy home with lots of warmth and laughter and our kids enjoy spending time with us. I hope to continue that throughout their childhoods. [/quote]

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