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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am hearing you talk about your feelings a lot. Feeling unappreciated. Feeling criticized. Do you and your husband ever talk about his feelings for you? Do you ever talk about the marriage. I wonder how much that underlies the allocation of housework?

If you just feel that the division is unfair, voice that and perhaps let him choose the tasks he takes. But put up a chart (like you might for a child), so it his noncompliance is visible. If he fails to keep his word, have the meeting again (rather than falling to your old ways as a couple) and state that he is not meeting his commitments.

If he keeps not meeting to his commitments to his "partner" and children, then I would consider how good a partnership you are in.

BUT the key is to agree civilly and hold him to the agreement. Just don't be sad and a victim. Feel entitled to him stepping up and hold him to his word.

It won't be easy because another dynamic has gone on for years, but you should feel deserving of better treatment.[/quote]

He has expressed his feelings in the past- and I will be honest- it is laughable. For example, "I'm exhausted because I've been with the kids for the last 3 hours."

It was honestly and legitimately one hour. And I prepared lunch on my way out the door.[/quote]

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