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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like a more accurate description would be that your husbands wants some say in whether your joint funds are used to maintain this cabin.[/quote]

I kind of agree with this.  If this were a SAHM with a working father about to inherit a joint family property, most here on DCUM would side with the wife that even as a SAHM, it is still joint money that they are spending and she should still have a say in it.  [b]It's always telling that DCUM being like 80-90% female always takes the wife's position and doesn't see the hypocrisy when the genders are flipped and their solutions flip, too.[/b]

OP--does this family property come with inheritance money as well?  If so, then I would make sure to set up the property and inheritance cash in separate accounts that are only in your name, and not joint.  Then you can pay for your 1/3 of the upkeep of the property from the inheritance funds and keep that all distinct from marital funds.  This is the best way to handle it.  If you invest marital funds, then your husband does have a say in the property and you need to come up with a way to reconcile using joint marital funds towards the property that is yours and not jointly owned.  That's the best option.  If you don't get any inheritance money along with the property, then it becomes harder as you would have to come to some sort of agreement with your husband.  Perhaps you can set a cap to the amount of money that goes annually to the property so that he doesn't feel that the cabin will become a suck on your joint resources and prevent the two of you from enjoying your retirement.  He is semi-retired and already looking at a lower income.  When you retire, you'll also have a lower income.  His position is reasonable that he doesn't want joint money, especially as you near your golden years with lower income, to be spent on the property that he has no interest from and doesn't enjoy.  [/quote]

I am a wife who works but am definitely not the breadwinner, and I even agree that this is so true. +1 on all of the suggestions to talk with an attorney and use inheritance money to maintain the cabin if your husband is not on board.[/quote]

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