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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]My son would be horribly anxious and we would make him do it.  That is how you deal with anxiety.  [/b]

Beforehand, You talk about how normal it is to be nervous and how the worst part is taking the first step - getting out of the car and going.

If he refuses to get out of the car you say something like  “I know you are nervous, but you can do this.”  Repeat.  And repeat again.  Acknowledge the fear but encourage the right behavior.  [/quote]

How do you make a 14 year old do it?

Do you physically remove him from the car?  Drag him by the arm or shove him out and start driving?

I'm genuinely curious what you mean by this.

My son does not response to bribes or punishments.  If he doesn't want to get out of the car (anxiety) he will not for any sum of money or material prize and also not for the punishment of losing his phone or computer for XX days or XX weeks. 
He can verbalize 10 reasons why going to the practice is the best thing to do "i know I should do this and this is why.."  but he won't get out. 
He's a good kid and follows along 99% of the time.  High straight A student, many friends.  So it's rare that refuses anything.

But in this case are you suggesting I physically kick him out?  I don't understand how people "can make" a 14 year old do something.  [/quote]

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