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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who seems to copy me a lot. If I buy a new pair of shoes or piece of clothing, she will ask me where I got them and then go buy them too. If I take up a new hobby, she will take it up too. If I go on vacation somewhere, she will soon go on vacation to the same place.

We are not close -- we're former colleagues and part of the same friend group. I always get along with her in person and she is a nice person. But the copying is starting to bug me. My BF says I should just take it as flattery, which I get, but it's started to make me feel self conscious and reluctant to share things because I feel like she's just looking for ideas. I'm also getting tired of always hearing "Oh yeah, Larla did/does that too!" or "Larla has that exact sweater!" when I'm talking to other people.

How do I deal with this? I have already really reduced my social media posting because I think she used to stalk it. But I still feel like she is kind of mimicking me all the time. I feel like the only thing I can do is just accept it, but in that case, how do I get it not to annoy me? I seem to be getting more annoyed with time, not less.[/quote]

[b]You don't do anything because you can't do anything!  It isn't like what you wear is so unique.  Aren't there millions of other people wearing the same things you wear? or vacation where you vacation? [/b] Take it as a compliment!  Your friend admires your taste.  Why is that a bad thing?[/quote]

This. If I vacation to Hawaii and you’ve already been, that doesn’t mean I’m copying you. If you aren’t friends, how does she even know what you are doing, or you her? Get over yourself.[/quote]

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