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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mind is blown by weekly cleaners spending 8-10 work hours at your house and it’s not enough. How are you this messy/dirty? Have your kids make their own beds..[/quote]

:shock: It is incredibly hard to maintain a house when you are working and also have 3 small kids.  The kids need your attention too.  I am sure that the weekly cleaners are ensuring that  OP's house is not dirty or gross.  But, daily living - cooking, cleaning, laundry, paper work also requires a lot of work.

I am a SAHM of grown kids. Before pandemic I had cleaners twice a week. 2 kids in HS and 1 in college. This year, all three are doing college, school, jobs, internships from home and my DH is working from home too. Without maid service, I am now cooking 3 hot meals for 5 grownups, doing laundry every day, changing sheets in 4 bedrooms, cleaning 4 bathrooms, washing pots and pans by hand along with having  the dishwasher run endlessley. In all of this, the only good thing is that my kids don't need my attention but they still need everything else done because they are busy.

Yes, the choice is to have lower standards and let everything go (and some days that happens too), but obviously OP does not want that to be the norm in her house much like I don't want that to be the norm in my house. Besides, it is not that letting things slide ever helps things. It just creates a larger mess and things spin more out of control.

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You live in a time warp. Is it the 1960s? Why are you acting like the cook and maid to a household full of adults?! Your college ago child lets you scrub their toilet? You need to command more respect and figure out how to run a team. Be a coach, not a maid. [/quote]

Sweetie, everyone is acting like the cook and maid, no?  Some full time, some part time, some working alone and some working in teams.  WOHMs, SAHMs, people living in 1960s and people living in 2020s - everyone is a maid and cook now.  See, even the OP, who does not want to be the cook and maid is being yelled at here for wanting to outsource more.  OP is very clear that she wants to not be the maid.

So if I command more respect then I am running a team of what? I am running a team of cooks and maids that are my own family member? [b]Sorry, but I am actually more used to running a team of maids that are not my family members[/b].  :lol:   Just trying to survive the pandemic. Once things are back to normal then I will have my maids back. Life will become easier again.

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