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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid was the biter, OP. He stopped by 3.5, but it was a rough year there for a while. He became the most gentle, chill, kind child you can imagine. He does have anxiety, which seems to have gone along with the biting.

Anyway, if you are concerned about YOUR KID you can say to the pre-school director that your kid and new kid have played together and that your son was hit/bitten/shaken whatever and is nervous about being with new kid. Ask if they can keep an eye out FOR YOUR SON'S emotions, and just make sure he is feeling safe. But really, you don't need to do anything. If the kid is still struggling with behavior they'll know very soon, and if he isn't...yay![/quote]

+1 OP sounds like a PITA who inserts herself into everyone's business on behalf of her precious snowflake.[/quote]

This is so unhelpful and unsupportive. My son is not a precious snowflake. When on the playground or park, I don't step in when he and other kids are having normal little toddler issues over toys whatever. I let hi figure it out- which sometimes means being disappointed or having something snatched from you.

I do step in when another child is pulling hair, grabbing his neck, or biting him. Which this child has done. To my son, and to many of the other regulars at our park. It was a daily occurrence.

I asked for feedback precisely because I am struggling on the pros and cons of saying something to the school.

But thanks so much for being a helpful supportive person for this mom in need of advice![/quote]

You realize you are over the top, right?  The fact that you think it could possibly think it is ok to go to the director of the school and say negative things about another small CHILD -- before the kid even has a chance to get settled -- is crazy!  Your talk about "blaming the parents" and all of the blather in your original post is so self centered and ridiculous.  You don't even see that you are contemplating being a total jerk to this other family but insist on getting sympathy from strangers on DCUM for your situation.  NUTS![/quote]

pp you are very angry. if parents allow their kids to bite and be aggressive without repercussion, then yes, i too blame the parents. the original post said the parental response was something to the effect of, "there he goes." to me that is pretty ridiculous.[/quote]

Something tells me the OP was exaggerating to make her case to go and slander the kid to the preschool director.  Just a thought.[/quote]

OP here. Zero exaggeration. What motivation do I have to exaggerate? No one is trying to slander a child- that's laughable. In any case, truth is a defense. It's not up for debate what behaviors and actions I have seen from this child in the past. As I've stated before, it is up for debate whether he still acts this way. Thank you to the helpful considerate folks who replied suggesting to just wait and see, and hope that it's an nonissue.[/quote]

You came at the kid & parents in your original post with an air of entitlement that you get to judge them.  The title of your post was "how to deal alert preschool of new student...who is very aggressive."  You are referring to a toddler - not an adult criminal or a wild animal.  This type of thing happens with kids.  You haven't seen the kid in three months, but you want to go and tell the school the kids is "aggressive" etc etc.  You are the one being aggressive.  Go ahead and tell the school.  They will flag you as the parent who causes trouble.[/quote]

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