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[quote=Anonymous]We have an only. She's 8 and we are 41 / 43. Overall it was the right decision. I had a little baby fever at 39 and we did TTC for a while but I had 3 miscarriages and we decided to let it go rather than pursue interventions. I like babies but I didn't want a second that badly.

I always expected that parenting would be difficult for us, given our personalities, and so the plan was always zero or one. It turns out that I love parenting and would probably be a happy SAHM to multiple kids, but I didn't want to take that on while also being the breadwinner with a long commute. Everything was too hard already, DD was an intense baby/toddler, I had PPA, I never lost the baby weight, etc.

Parenting also revealed a lot of weaknesses in our marriage, and frankly DH needed to grow up quite a bit. We are in a good place now but it took years, and counseling, to get here.

Things are really good now. Once DD got to about six, the intensity receded. Her learning to read was a game changer, in terms of being able to accomplish things during her waking hours. We just got back from a vacation 5 hours away by car, which we would not have attempted when she was little.  Because she's an only we could afford to move her to private school for covid and we can consider keeping her there if we want.

DD would be a great big sister, but she's also benefited from being the focus of a lot of attention and resources. And she wants to be a mom some day, which I never did because I always heard how draining and hard it is: I'm glad I have the bandwidth to give her a different impression.[/quote]

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