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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should move to a place that makes you feel like less of a failure (and isn’t a second rate local school for your kid). Where do you live now and what is your housing budget? What does your custody agreement require in terms of schools?

I live in Anne Arundel Co where people are more normal. I think you’d be happier. [/quote]

This. Why on earth did you move into a rental with a crappy school when you have a kid?

Find a good public school district and move there, even if it means a 1-BR or less nice rental. Figure out a career path to make more money. Assuming you're in the DMV area, look into IT consulting. Lots of positions don't require coding skills, like being a tester. You start with a low salary but there's lots of room to grow and get higher paying jobs with some experience.

OP, I'm sorry you're dealing with a bad situation right now. You do need to take some responsibility and turn things around. You picked a low paying profession and chose to live in a place with a crappy school for your kid. If you're paying for a 2-bedroom, then you likely could afford someone's basement apartment or some other apartment in a good school district for the same rent you're paying now. Recognize that you're making choices all along and take more ownership over that. You'll have more control over your life and it will make you much happier. Take care.[/quote]

OP here and Im not sure why you assume I picked a low paying profession. I have a graduate degree and make $200K. It’s still not enough for that life as I got a late start and need to save.[/quote]

OMG. And you're still miserable? There's probably not hope for you without a major shift in priorities.[/quote]

Yes. OP are you spending more than you should? We've seen people that make  a lot more money but have less due to poor money management.  Yes make a plan to start saving and scale your life down.  As for a partner only date those that have your same goals. Usually you can find that out right away. I wanted to have the choice to work, or be a SAHM or do both. I made sure to only date men that were on the same page.  I've known friends that got divorce because the guy thought the woman should have a career, and another job when she got home. Basically start changing you life to fit your goals. [/quote]

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