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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just want to chime in as someone who happily donated anonymously. I seldom come back to this board, but when I do, I feel like this sentiment could use some amplification. To be able to help a family struggling with infertility, and knowing that if all went well they could have babies as beautiful as those we'd had, still fills me with a huge feeling of warmth. I hope those embryos took![/quote]

So you have no contact at all with the family?  See part of me would want that but the other part feels like it would be hard to let go of any knowledge of that embryo. [/quote]

I’m not sure how you would have a hard time letting go of knowing you may have helped a family make a baby that shares your genetics, but no problem letting go of knowing as a fact that you destroyed your genetic offspring. Can usually see most sides of an issue but truly don’t understand that one. [/quote]

One of my concerns as someone in this position is the what ifs. They may seem irrational to you but unless you’re in this position you may not give it the same type of weight of decision making ... What if my children go to school with other kids who are full blood siblings and they get confused why the Smith kids look like them? Or you tell them the truth and they are emotionally scarred by you “abandoning” their siblings, keeping them from them, etc. Or what if they meet at some point unknowingly, get married and wind up unexpectedly birthing a now (inbred) child? Possible? Yes. A high possibility, no. But a possibility, yes. That alone is a strong enough concern, no matter how big the concern is in actuality, for me not to donate remaining embryos. But the biggest reason for me is if I donated embryos, I would be constantly staring at every child I see on the street and scrutinizing your face is wondering if they are 100% genetically mine. [/quote]

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