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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You say there are financial issues in the marriage, OP.  What are you doing to help with the finances?

It is not immature for a man not to want to bring children into the world that he's not sure he can support financially.  And it's an imposition on society for a woman to bear children she can't support without looking to the government to bail her out.

On the other hand, if your spouse previously indicated he wanted to have kids, and you are financially in a position to support one or more children now, different story.  At some point it can become a basic incompatibility in the marriage. [/quote]

I doubt OP means she’ll need welfare when she says financial issues. DCUM acts like it’s irresponsible to have kids if your HHI is under $100k. Most people can raise one child on $70k in this area by living in an apartment and attending public school. [/quote]

raising a child on a total of $70K in this area is not exactly a cakewalk. renting an apt (or a mortgage) can easily be $2000 (especially if you need an area with decent public schools). plus, unless one parent stay home, you need full day care for at least three years, so rent/mortgage + daycare can easily be over $45K a year alone, not much left after that. and having a child as a single woman requires $$$$ unless you have family around who agrees to help when child is sick and you need to go to work and so on. [/quote]

No, not a cakewalk, but doable if your priority is to have a child. It’s not doable if your priority is other stuff: a house zoned to a certain HS, twice year vacations, money for fantasy football or salon blowouts. [/quote]

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