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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Because women especially are told not to be "shallow" and will be alone forever if they are "too picky[/b]."

I would have rather been alone, so I was mostly single until I met my husband, but most of my friends who were always in relationships dated guys they weren't attracted to to "give him a chance" and see if they "became attracted due to his personality." Never worked out.[/quote]

I am not doubting but sincerely curious: who is giving that advice. I would never tell my daughter that so want to know where that message comes from.[/quote]

A few posts back, someone said that because most women are only attracted to the top 20% of men, women should settle.

My whole life, if I wasn’t interested in a guy because I wasn’t attracted, I’d hear tons of “poor guy!” and “but he’s SUCH a good guy!”

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Yep.  I've NEVER heard a man be told the same about a woman.  "Sure she's ugly and terrible, but she's SUCH a good person!  Give her a chance!"  Never, ever heard that.[/quote]

Ditto. I dated a wonderful man in my 20s, who was smart, kind and rich, but I literally felt physically repulsed by him. I could not imagine spending a lifetime in a relationship like that (both for his sake and mine). But several of my close friends seemed to suggest that I should just ignore my repulsion and marry him anyway. I'm glad I didn't, we both found much better matches for ourselves down the line. [/quote]

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