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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s an expression, a social lubricant.  What do you want people to say when they find out that you are getting divorced and moving again for the third time in as many years?  
“Oh, that sounds difficult and traumatizing for your children, and will probably have an impact into their adulthood and possibly into the next generation.  You know what’s easier to inherit than wealth or blue eyes?  Trauma.”

No.  You say, “It will be okay.  Kids are resilient.”

That’s how we all live together without wanting to murder each other.

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Why can’t you just reassure the person without demeaning the kids’ feelings?  Why lie?  Just admit “That’s a hard situation” and see what you can do to help.  [/quote]

Because I don’t always want to be involved or feel obligated to help everyone.  
I don’t tell kids that they should be resilient when they tell me their feelings.  This is something you say to adults that you don’t know all that well.

When my cousin died, I didn’t tell her husband that kids should be resilient.  I told him that kids needed to keep a routine and continue to go to school and went over there three days a week to help with homework and fix dinner.  
But when my co-worker got divorced for the third time, I told her that “kids are resilient,” and went on with my life.

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