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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s anxiety.

This is a lot. Big changes and decisions and it’s scary. She’s not trying to be irresponsible or flippant, she’s paralyzed and avoiding the discomfort of dealing with all these overwhelming choices and facing the reality that her life is changing big time in the fall. I would guess she probably needs more support, not less, and it’s not the time to back off and let her sink or swim and deal with the consequences. [/quote]

[quote]Same here. I know I’ll get flamed for this but right now I’m just double checking emails to make sure she’s not missing anything she needs to attend to. Don’t forget these kids have basically been horizontal for a year and while they might be excited about college they’ve not had to attend to much in an online school.[/quote]

I agree with both of the PPs. OP, I have a senior and he is in the same boat. He's not excited about college, because he's not excited about anything. A year plus of online school has taken its toll. Different families took different approaches to the pandemic, but we are paying the price now for our risk adverse approach. We did have a come to Jesus talk with our son and told him that we fully support him if he's not ready. It has become clear that he is avoiding reentry because he is anxious and paralyzed. It's normal to be nervous but not to be paralyzed with fear.

Since realizing this, I scheduled an appointment for him with a therapist. We are kindly emphasizing that avoidance is only going to make things worse, so he needs to take steps toward addressing these issues. The good news is that he is open to getting help and has realized that his anxiety is a problem that requires immediate attention.

This has been a difficult year for many kids. Those who were anxious before have enjoyed the safety of their homes, which makes returning to regular life feel overwhelming. When you pile the prospect of starting an entirely new life on top of that, it can feel suffocating. 
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