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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]“So I looked and sure enough, she's not checked her College X email, or opened her high school email from College X.”

OP, this is a huge red flag to me. Why do you even have access to your DD’s high school email or college email? Did you regularly check her emails during high school? Having passwords and checking your kid’s email is a huge invasion of privacy and is not appropriate. Does your DD have ADHD?  Maybe sign her up for an executive function crash course this summer? [/quote]

NP-I respectfully disagree.  Every family is different.  In our family if a minor child has an email account the parents have full access to it.  We don't read every email but we are able to.  When our dd was a junior in high school we created a completely new email account for her to be used for college applications. I would regularly check that email account to see if there were any time sensitive emails.  Then I would remind her that she needed to check her emails more often.  It is a lot for high school seniors to handle. She got better at it. As she got better at it I faded out. I want my teens to learn how to be independent but it doesn't need to be an all or nothing situation.  Once she had picked a school we reminded her how to unsubscribe from other school emails systems so that she would not get flooded by junk email. When she was 18 and leaving for college we talked about her changing her password and that we no longer needed access.  She said she was fine with us having it and that it was nice to know we were able to get in in an emergency. And it has come in handy.  This past week she was on a school trip with no electronics.  Before she left she asked me to check her email daily in case anything came in that needed to be dealt with before she got back.  It did. The company that the school uses for fridge rentals emailed her and she had 48 hours to reply or we would lose our security deposit. This set up works for our family.[/quote]

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