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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just want to note OP is talking about staying home for a couple years, not the rest of her life. The idea that being a SAHM for 2-3 years when your child is very young will ruin your marriage is really weird to me. And also really restrictive for women. I stayed home for a couple years in part because I wanted to, and in part because I had PPD and staying home helped me deal with that so that I could go my return to work in a healthy, positive way.

People on DCUM always talk about this like it’s an either/or. But many, many women do what OP is proposing (SAHM a couple years when child is young, then go back to work). For many of us, it helped us avoid the trap of being a working mom who also does the bull if the work at home. Having a SAHP is a good way for a family to acknowledge that childcare and housework are work. And it helps the working parent understand that when the SAHP returns to work, both parents will need to step it up at home to cover the loss of the SAHP.[/quote]

OP here. My job is a large part of my identity. I take pride in it. My husband and I bonded over being in similar fields ( healthcare). He said one of the reasons he fell in love with me was my drive to help people. He loves how selfless and caring I am. He loved that I chose a profession to take care of people and make their lives better.

Staying home could easily turn into 4-5 years if we have a second child. I guess I  m just nervous how much the dynamics of our relationship will change if u quit my job. [/quote]

That is entirely up to the two of you. No one else can tell you how you will or will not respond to the new dynamic. For many people it is wonderful (it has been for us). Clearly there are some on here who are not as happy with their life choices.[/quote]

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