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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The quirkies need normal friends who can sustain a conversation with eye contact and don't have blue hair.  She'll be fine.[/quote]

LOL. Original poster here. Honestly, that is my impression. A family member lives near one of the campuses and often (pre-covid) did her running/exercising on the campus. She said she found it odd that students didn't speak to one another or a nod/smile when walking by each other. My DD is outgoing and has been around many different types since Kindergarten. Always friendly with everyone but I feel like she doesn't have any BFF's. She gets invited to the nerd parties and the popular kids parties but doesn't go to any! It doesn't seem to phase her. 
She does like interacting with teachers and it seems you really get that at the LAC's.  I just don't want her to have NO friends. They may think she is weird because she is black, urban, middle class and outgoing.  It is ultimately her choice and hopefully, she can spend time on campuses in the Fall. [/quote]

Hmmm . . . OP, I went to a SLAC, as did my husband, as did five of our sibs and their spouses, and as did/do two of my kids and four of my nephews and nieces (in all, we have attended five of the NESCAC schools).  The observation regarding students not speaking to each other sounds very off.  Honestly, when I have visited my kids and their cousins on campus, you can hardly have a conversation because they kids are constantly saying hi to each other.  Also, can you  be more specific about what you mean by "quirky"?  I'd ask the same of other posters here.  The quoted poster above who talks about "quirkies" and "normal" kids sounds mean and narrow-minded.  That's definitely not cool at SLACs, BTW.      [/quote]

Honestly, I don't even know what quirky means and can only assume. The counselor used that word. My own DD may be quirky because most kids her age love parties and she hates them. I feel like the counselor doesn't really know her.  Maybe she assumes she isn't quirky because all she knows for sure is that my DD is friendly, well liked, and plays multiple sports (no interest in playing in college - she could certainly do D3 in all her sports), not into the arts and that she is AA. [b]When I think quirky I think the artsy type that are always on the picket line protesting, raising there voices, etc.[/b] So in that regard - My DD is NOT. [/quote]

Maybe it would be helpful to start by describing these students as kids who are into arts and political activism; rather than "quirky" kids, which is kind of generic and mean.  At most SLACs you'll find students who fit that description, as well as students who, like your DD, are into sports -- whether or not they're varsity athletes or play on a club team or just enjoy watching sports.  You'll also find kids who like parties as well as others, like your DD, who don't.  So, the question is whether your DD, whom you describe as friendly and well-liked, enjoys being around people who aren't like her or whether she wants to hang with people who are more like her.       [/quote]

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