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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn't scary. This happens often but isn't reported. You have to make it very clear to your kids, "no alcohol!" My parents always told me growing up that if kids brought alcohol over, they could be arrested. They are the parents. They are in charge! Sorry. I bet their son feels bad for not speaking up.[/quote]

I'm guessing you have no experience with teens?

If you do, however, your outlook is very simplistic.  So unless you're living on 50 acres in Montana while homeschooling your kids, I don't think you're being realistic.[/quote]

No, I was a teenager. My parents absolutely drove home the point that they were responsible for all of my friends in our house. [b]The law doesn't stop at your front door. They also said they could get sued and lose everything. They drilled it into my head and it made me not invite friends over that couldn't follow the rules.[/b] I had been to other house parties and saw how the kids treated the house (putting cigarettes out on the floor and couches). I also knew many kids doing cocaine and heroin (remember heroin chic in the early 90s?). At the end of the day, if you talk with your kids and explain why things are not allowed, your child, hopefully, will get a clue. Perhaps your parents didn't have this conversation or mayerbe you didn't care. Not all teenagers are irresponsible and stupid .[/quote]

I teach teens.  So you're not exactly one from whom I'd take advice.

As far as my parents were concerned, we were raised with alcohol.  It's wasn't a big deal.  I grew up with the European mentality that it was OK to have a glass of wine with dinner.  My parents didn't scare the shit out of me with regard to alcohol.  Fear-based parenting doesn't work.[/quote]

I had teacher who got stoned with my classmates, so just being a teacher doesn't make you more responsible than anyone else in my opinion. I never said that my parents didn't let me have wine with Thanksgiving dinner. I don't think they were parenting by fearr but were clearly laying out possible consequences. Hey your parents didn't scare the shit out of you, which might be why you partied in college and ended up being a teacher. Good luck with your kids.[/quote]

Wow - So you obviously have quite a bit of respect for people teaching our youth.  I'm not surprised by your tone, as you struck me as an idiot after I read your first post.

But anyone with that much hostility can't be very happy to begin with, proving that fear-based parenting does NOT work.

And in regard to your T-giving comment . .  . As an Italian we had homemade wine all through the year.  So drinking was not a novelty to me.  It was often paired with homemade pizzas and pastas!  I had a good childhood, PP, and that's why I'm a damn good educator, too!

too bad yours sucked[/quote]

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