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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you actually planning to cut off all contact? Or just have different plans for one holiday? Not clear from what you wrote.[/quote]

Up until now, we've only seen her for those two holidays.  Mother's Day she came here, and Thanksgiving we went there.  My plan is that I will still visit her but without the kids, but she will not be invited here.  However, since I like to spend Thanksgiving with my kids, we'll need to find another time for me to visit. [/quote]

This seems a little delusional? You actually think your relationship/visits with your mother would remain unchanged if you cut her off from her grandkids?[/quote]
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OP is talking about moving the date of a formerly regular visit. [/b]Not abandoning her mother on the street with a tent.[/quote]

No you misread. OP is not allowing her mother to see her children anymore. According to her the children can reevaluate when they’re 18. It’s delusional to think that OP’s relationship with her mother will remain the same.

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Are you OP, PP? We still don't know how old these children are. That's important information.[/quote]

I'm not looking for advice on whether or not to cut off contact.  I'm looking for advice on how to talk to my mom.  I don't see how knowing my kids' ages would change that.[/quote]

People are starting to give you a hard time because without more information it is basically impossible to give advice. Not sure what you want from people. Based on the very little information we have from you, if you are truly cutting all contact, you just say it, mom, due to xxxxx we can not let you be around the kids or have contact with them. Don't call them, write them, etc. until they are adults and can decide on their own.

I would be very hesitant to take advice from internet strangers regarding this. Cutting off your mother like this is well worth a visit or two to a therapist to explain the situation and get some insight from them on how best to proceed.[/quote]

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