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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son's montisorri school is acting in what feels like a very dramatic way to his behavior.  Daily reports of how "difficult" he's been, implying his behavior is well outside the range of normal and he's the only child that does these things, pushing us hard to get him OT earlier in the year (which we did/do and the OT found nothing in her assessment at our home and fully based her recommendation for OT for the teachers' reported behaviors), and now having us meet with the school director and them to "discuss what is going on"

I fully own that we need to work on my almost 4yos behavior and totally acknowledge a lot of kids his age don't do the things they're reporting, but also feel like his behavior isn't wildly out of the range of normal (vs diagnosis needed / outside the realm of "normal) for his age.  Either way we will work on it but I'm hoping for a gut check of whether this school / these teachers may also be a bad fit for him and their view of what's normal for his age.

Things they report are:
- Ripping up another kids project when the kid says he can't help with it
- Dumping over his own work (what montisorri calls their activities) if its time to wrap up and he's not done
- During times of a lot of noise and transition, getting too close to other students and bumping into them (he's never hurt anyone at school but does touch other kids)
- Doing things like purposefully splashing water on the floor at their little sink where they're supposed to wash their own dishes

There's usually one "incident" a week of him messing up another kids work....this isn't like a multiple times a day thing.  For the more minor things like getting wound up at transition times, it tends to happen on days he hasn't slept well and is struggling a bit more with self control.  Again obviously these are things we need to work on to help him continue to learn and grow as a person, but are they really that abnormal for an almost 4 year old?[/quote]

Yes.  Your child’s actions at nearly four are without question outside normal behavior.

I’m a preschool teacher with a masters in ECD and the weekly distraction of another child’s work is very serious and a huge red flag.  You [/quote]

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