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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am at mid 40s and childless. For the most part I find that I never get to see my friends with kids. They would prefer to hang out with other parents with kids.[/quote]

This is my experience as well.  I have friends with kids, and I see usually see them in the context of their kids.  I went to all of one friend’s kid’s birthdays, recitals, etc.   I love her and her family, but those friends don’t reciprocate or show much appreciation of my life.  You can even see it in the posts here.  All of the parents say to remain friends, their child free friends have to accommodate them, but I wonder how they show those child free friends that they care and value them.

I used to be much more accommodating.  I’ve never commented on any friend’s parenting.  I’ve gone to so many kid events.  I’ve been out to dinner with a friend’s kids running around the restaurant screaming.  And yet I’ve never felt that any of them would go out of their way to see me or accommodate me.  In my experience most friends seemed to become more selfish when they had kids.  And they use their kids as a trump card for everything.

Just be prepared for that.  There will be times your friends imply or outright say your time isn’t as precious as theirs and your life isn’t as meaningful.  I’ve learned to just let it go when that happens.  But I no longer go out of my way.  [/quote]

“ In my experience most friends seemed to become more selfish when they had kids. And they use their kids as a trump card for everything.”

This!! I even have a friend who was annoyed that her sister in law got pregnant three months after her but she was looking forward to having more control in the extended family due to having kids.[/quote]

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