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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We're feeling a little disappointed as parents. But the decision is up to her and we haven't let it be known to her that we feel this way. Is it terrible to think that?

The safety is actually a better "fit" in so many ways, and outcomes will likely be similar.

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I was in the same boat with my youngest last year OP, and felt a similar way for a bit.  I don't live in the DC area, but in a small town that puts a lot of pressure on kids academically and the prestige of college seems like it is everything sometimes.

My youngest kid chose a safety and I'm so glad now he did.  I was very leery that as a STEM major his reach would be too much for him, but I never said that.  The academic reputation of his reach was the only thing that was in it's favor once he wrote a pros and cons list.  His safety was the perfect location, (far, but not too far from home, which was important to him after some of his siblings went very far away) the right size, had a club team he wanted to join (and that hook has been so amazing for him, even with Covid keeping the team from regular practices) and many other things that he considered.  He is flourishing and maturing in a way he didn't in high school, and all the reasons that his safety seemed like the best choice really were important to his overall success this year.  He is studying more than he ever did in high school-which drives me nuts when my kids say that, but I seem to have kids who do fine in high school but wake up in college and realize they need to take it more seriously. I am thankful that they do wake up when they get to college!

My one kid who did go to a reach, did ok, but always felt like it was a little too much of a challenge for her and I really think she would have been better off at a smaller, more academically matched school. She did fine, and is now working in her field.  But it was touch and go there for a while.  [/quote]

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