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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]same situation with my dd.  its the trend... ugh!  over here we are trying not not make it about her or her body.  we have focused the conversation on thinking about what is okay to ear in different places. As in, THAT might be okay if you are headed to the beach or pool, but need to wear something different to go to school, to the mall, etc.  [/quote]

I was a teen in the 80s, the first time (or maybe the 2nd) that crop tops and short skirts/short shorts were in style.  THat's basically the convo my parents had.  Wear appropriate clothing for the event.  Don't over dress or under dress, neither one is appropriate.  You wouldn't wear the crop/shorts to school, and you wouldn't wear slacks and pumps to the pool.  Or whatever.  Made sense then, makes sense now.

Toxic parenting?  GMAB.[/quote]

It makes sense until you realize that what we wear to a pool etc was determined by the same people who have crop top in fashion and thus style and what is worn is fluid, it may not be easy but it's better to honest that your  beliefs  have to do with that [b]girls/women should be covered up to prevent sexual harassment[/b].[/quote]

For me, this hits the nail on the head.  DH has opposed some of the clothes DD (16 yo) wears.  When pressed on what he finds objectionable, it's really hard for him to articulate.  It comes down to her being viewed as sexual - and this isn't due to her exposing breasts/butt cheeks.  DD is fit/trim and youthful.  Unless she's wearing a burqa, you're going to see her figure.

Women/girls will be objectified no matter what they wear.  It's not about 'provocative clothing' or them 'asking for it', it is about a world where men/boys feels comfortable in objectifying women/girls.  Should we let them dictate our choice in clothing because they choose not to control themselves?  I'm not talking about wearing a crop top/short shorts to church or the office (which would be inappropriate) but if for day-to-day, why should my DD choose to dress for men rather than for herself?[/quote]

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