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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No of course not. It’s selfish if he prioritizes family #2 over family #1. Unfortunately, that seems to be par for the course. [/quote]

I'm a guy and I know this is going to be an unpopular opinion but there's just no way I could love an existing child that wasn't mine equally as a child that was mine.  I'm not saying kid #2 gets a higher standard of living than child #1 or that child #1 gets treated poorly but everything just seems like it would be so different.  With the bio child I'm there for all of it and can begin bonding with the child from birth whereas I wouldn't have that same experience with an existing child.  That's not to say I couldn't grow to also love the existing child but I couldn't honestly say that it would be the same.[/quote]

Omg get over yourself. Kid #1 and kid #2 are both yours in this scenario; you marry wife #1, have baby #1, divorce, then marry wife #2, have baby #2. The kids are half-siblings. You’re a moron.

Also there are many men who are able to love children not biologically related to them. Case in point, my husband with our adopted child. [/quote]

Some of it is the relationship.  We adopted as well.  My husband is much closer to our children regardless of genetics as he is parenting them and involved in their lives.  His ex did everything possible to block his relationship with his older kids and he wasn't able to have the same kind of relationship.

There is zero reason why OP should not have more kids if she and her husband agree.
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